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Fussing Over Your Features

Mar 28

Posted by: ACHA
3/28/2014 12:49 PM  RssIcon

By Kelly Deeny

I don't mind the scar down my chest. In fact, I accept it as part of what makes me unique. It's a reminder to me on stressful days of how much strength and determination exists within. Yes, it mirrors a heart that's endured physical pain, but the healed wound also signifies an emotional and spiritual journey that's had its share of challenges.

I struggle with the style, color, and length of my hair. I wish my teeth were straighter, and I know the extra pounds don't flatter this tiny person. In all the nitpicky views of my appearance, I look at my scar and see beauty. I see uniqueness, bravery, purpose, and hope.

While drafting this post I realized that I judge my cosmetic features too harshly. If I can see myself as beautiful with a scar down my chest, then why fuss so much over a hairstyle? I had no control or choice in putting the scar on my flesh, but I can change my hairstyle or take steps towards a healthier weight.

A graduate of Temple University's English program, Kelly Deeny recently completed book one in her juvenile fiction series. Using various forms of the creative arts, Kelly seeks to heal the emotional and spiritual scars that remain from her 1979 open heart surgery. While her ventricular septal defect was repaired and no physical limitations remain, she's just recently realized how vital the arts are to her healing process. Visit Kelly’s website by clicking here.

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Re: Fussing Over Your Features

I have always felt the very same way. I have never, ever been embarrassed or self conscious about my scars. While my criticism of my facial features and body image are consistent with that of any typical teenager and later mature woman, I was never critical of my beautiful scars! I wear them as a badge of courage and a visible reminder of the gift of my life and the proof of miracles! Glad that you too are aware of the amazing gift of skilled and dedicated physicians who have saved the lives of many!

By Kathy Laird on   3/28/2014 3:31 PM

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